Limited by Either/Or

Either/Or or Both/And. I’ve been hearing this phrase a lot. The idea being, we don’t have to pick either/or, we can be both/and. I think of Jessica Honegger the creator of Noonday and her statements like Scared & Brave, Successful & Beginner. It sounds inspiring. I am inspired. And yet I relate more to the limits of either/or. I’m either all in OR not involved. I am either prepared to fill in all the gaps myself or I’m not planning on showing up. I either trust in my ability to produce OR I trust that God’s got it. But not both.

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Sara Carlson
What I Missed in College

I remember sitting in the student center on campus my freshman year of college. I had met an older woman for lunch. And by older woman, she was probably 24. But she was married and had her own condo and worked on staff for the campus ministry I attended. I remember being flattered by her offer to meet me, and then kind of confused when I realized that after our lunch she was meeting another student and another student. It wasn’t just that she liked me and wanted to be my friend. Though she probably did both...like me and want to be my friend. What she wanted was to be an older, wiser friend. A friend who could act as a mentor and give me advice and help me navigate the mine field of the college social experience.

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Flexiblity or Plan?

How responsive are you?  Do you set a plan and stay the course, or get caught reacting to everything that feels urgent?  By nature I am a super structured person.  I make plans and I don’t deviate.  Organization is my gift, flexibility is not.  If I’m responsive it’s often out of urgency rather than the priority of being available.  But this is something I have been challenged by, because though it is good to be someone who follows through it is equally good to be available to respond to something different than the plan.

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Sara Carlson
Seeing God

It felt silly the first time my friend did it.  We were on a walk and she said, “God, thank you for the mountains, they’re just beautiful today.”  Just like that. No preamble, just praise for God and His creation in the middle of our walking and talking.

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Sara Carlson
Not like Mom

As we helped him work his way through the college application process, there were all sorts of aptitude tests that came his way.  What were his gifts, what were his strengths, what should he pursue for a degree, and who would he become?  

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Sara Carlson